The difference between making love and having sex and why you need them both
This isn’t a trick question. We put too much stress on whether we’re making love or just having sex all the time. But does it really matter? So what do you enjoy more, having sex or making love? We hardly ever speak about the difference between making love and having sex. But yet everyone makes such a big deal about it, especially when you’re in a relationship and one person complains about the lack of intimacy.
If you’ve been in a relationship with someone for at least a few months and are deeply attracted to them, you’re probably making sweet love every time both of you get into bed. When two lovers are deeply in love with each other and indulge in passionate sex, it almost always turns out to be a good round of making love.
Having sex is just that, pure carnal satisfaction of sexual desires. You meet someone you’re sexually attracted to, and you have sex. Foreplay doesn’t always have to be long, and both of you can roll over and sleep as soon as the deed is over. If you meet a stranger and jump the bed together, or if you hook up with a friend and take them to bed, you’re probably going to have sex with them, not make love.
While making love is all about the connection you feel, having sex is just about experiencing the pleasure down there. And when you have sex with someone for the first time, even a simple kiss can be a confusing affair. Both of you don’t know each other’s make out styles. Who takes the upper lip while kissing? Who plays a silent role and who takes control? Everything is just so confusing while having sex with someone new!
And it gets more confusing the closer you get to having sex. Who moves the pelvis? Who’s on top? Everything just goes from one confusion to another. It’s fun, wild and sexy. But more often than not, it’s not as much fun as it could have been. Plain sex always has the potential to get better when the two people involved get to know each other better.
Even friends with benefits have better sex because they’re better connected to each other’s wants and likes. And that’s probably why they end up falling in love with each other when their guard’s down. While making love and having sex may feel similar, there’s a big emotional difference. Making love involves the feeling of love, while love doesn’t really have to enter the equation while having sex. READ MORE…