How to find love in the new year
Between your career, your friends, working out, paying the bills and your family, dating can be the kind of priority that just keeps slipping further down the list. As the new year approaches and resolutions abound, it’s a good time to dedicate yourself to looking for (and finding) love.
Relationship expert and dating coach Matt Titus points out that a steadfast focus must become part of your schedule to get good results. “You can’t hope and rely on a serendipitous event to help fulfill your romantic life,” he says. “We all get caught up in our lives. New York’s pure hustle to pay your rent, save your money, buy the necessities and you want some money leftover to do fun things — all that stuff gets in the way and when I try to schedule [clients] to do our sessions or schedule them for a date, they’re too busy just trying to make it. That can truly inhibit how you facilitate a relationship.”
Finding time is not the only key — having a strategy is also important, says Titus. “There has to be a proactive plan of action. Mr. or Mrs. Right isn’t going to be in your apartment complex especially in a city where the women outnumber the men. In order for something to happen, a proactive action plan is what I advocate.” That dating investment involves shuffling your schedule so maybe that three times a week yoga class isn’t a must-have compared to going to a meetup or birthday party to meet new potential dates. READ MORE…