3 ways to save your sex life
We can’t choose which feelings we want to experience. What most people don’t realize in their selective attention to their feelings is that as we block our ability to feel any particular emotion, it actually impacts all of our emotional capacity, not just the things we are trying to avoid.
This is the conundrum that chokes most people’s sexual drive because libido and emotion are so closely tied, and not only in our brain’s processing mechanism. When we become numb to our emotional response and are unwilling to listen to the important lessons that our heart has to share, we inadvertently lose our capacity to get turned on sexually, too. Let’s look at how learning to feel can heal old erotic wounds, expand your sexual potential and create intimate connections.
The issue of sexual consent is a hot topic and not just for young adults who are learning to navigate the uneasy land of sexual hookups. Most young people come into sexual encounters with some degree of inebriation, which makes drawing a line between yes and no fuzzy. Too often there has been no planning for an exit strategy for the moment when yes turns into no more- creating another common dilemma leading to harmful sexual results. Tragically, sex that ends badly, where one or both partners feel forced, disrespected or ashamed of what happened is what happens when sexual acts are ungrounded and divorced from the comfort and familiarity of intimate relationship.