10 tips for being single and happy
They say that it takes 10,000 hours to become an expert in something. As such, I should have earned beyond a doctorate degree in the art of being single. Now, while I am far from an expert in anything, there are few things I’ve learned while being single that it seems some people overlook.
A lot of articles aimed at single women seek to show them how to snag a partner. That’s great (albeit, most of it’s completely ridiculous) but what are you supposed to do in the meantime? Rather than sit and wait for another person to start your life…do it yourself.
Do things alone. This sounds obvious, I know, but a lot of people are afraid to do things by themselves. Go to the movies. Have a meal. Go shopping. It’s going to be okay…I promise, you will survive.
Don’t be cynical. This one is hard because there are times that feel hopeless. There are times when you will be disappointed. There are times when you will feel lonely. Don’t lose hope — don’t create a self-fulfilling prophecy that you don’t want to become true.
Travel alone. It’s weird…at first. But once the weirdness washes away, it becomes a freedom you don’t often have. You get to be on your own schedule and have the chance to spend as much time as you want doing whatever it is that you want to do — all while being in a new place. Explore! Create an adventure!
Develop self-awareness. I’m naturally a big proponent of therapy (you can take the girl out of psychology but you can’t take the psychology out of the girl) so use it to figure out what you want. What are your dreams, goals, desires, setbacks? Explore the little nervous things you do and why you do them (I admit, I will keep talking and say too much because I’m otherwise afraid to let myself be vulnerable with another person — but I’m aware of it and I’m working on it). Explore all of it in a safe place. Who are you and what do you need to feel complete? You cannot expect that to come from another person — that’s all on you. Own it. READ MORE…