10 signs of mutual sexual tension and how to handle your horniness
Having mutual sexual tension can be really difficult to deal with, especially if you can’t satiate it. Here’s how to handle your irrational desires.
One of the most obvious signs you and another person have some serious chemistry is mutual sexual tension. You feel it the second you meet and interact and honestly, it doesn’t usually go away on its own.
And that can be a major issue if you can’t satisfy those feelings due to being in a relationship or not wanting to ruin a friendship. Sexual tension, in general, can be an issue if you’re seeing someone else and suddenly you have this intense desire to have sex with someone else.
If you’re not sure if what you feel when you’re around someone is mutual sexual tension, these tips can help you determine if it truly is. And if you definitely don’t want to act on those feelings, we also have some tips for dealing with it.
1. A lot of eye contact
If you’re sexually attracted to someone and they feel the same, you’ll make a lot of eye contact. Since eye contact shows a person you’re connected and into them, it only makes sense that two people with mutual sexual tension would spend a lot of time looking at one another.
2. Immediate flirty behavior
When you first see someone and you greet one another in a very flirtatious way, it’s clear you have mutual sexual tension. The first thing you do when you see each other is spark the attraction and it’s obvious you’re both thinking about one another sexually.
3. Increased heart rate
More than likely, two people who are attracted to each other and have sexual tension will definitely be nervous and upbeat around each other. If you notice your heart rate increases around them along with these other signs and they also seem to be giddy, it’s definitely mutual sexual tension.
4. A lot of smiling
You really won’t even be able to help yourself around someone you’re sexually attracted to. The moment that tension hits, you’ll be flirty and smiling like crazy. It’s a natural response when we’re around people we want to get with.
5. Flirty body language
Your body can tell you an awful lot about how you feel. Are you leaning in to talk to that other person? Are you straightening your clothes, biting you lip, and casually touching them? If so and if they’re doing the same, you have major mutual sexual tension.
6. You’re attached like a magnet
Basically, you always end up near that other person and you don’t really know why. Even when you’re in large friend groups, you always end up next to them. It’s not by chance. The mutual sexual tension acts as a sort of magnet. We always want to be around those who make us feel great and sexual tension definitely gives you those feelings.
7. Mutual staring
Even when you’re across the room, you can’t help but stare at them. And when you do look at them, they’re staring back at you. This is a huge sign of mutual sexual tension. You can’t get enough of looking at one another. This is very clear you both want to hop in each other’s pants.
8. Think of the consequences
This will also help you avoid adding to the sexual tension. What would happen if you gave in to your feelings? Most likely, nothing good. Thinking of those consequences will clear your head and get rid of those lustful feelings.
9. Shut down even the possibility early on
If you’re friends with the other person, shut down the idea of ever being with them right away. Don’t even give them hope that it’ll ever happen. Then they’ll stop pursuing you and it’ll be easier to get over those feelings.
10. Ask friends to intervene
If you don’t trust yourself, ask your friends for help. They can help steer the other person away from you and they can also help remind you of why you could never be with that person in the first place.