10 dirty ways to have the sexiest rough sex ever
Here’s everything you need to know about how to have rough sex the dirty way. And you can use these 15 types of rough sex to make it a lot sexier too! Rough sex is subjective. What’s rough to one person could be tame to another. If you’re seeing someone for a while, and they confess that they love rough sex, don’t just grin widely and assume you know what they expect you to do in bed.
Rough sex is rough sex, but even when two people indulge in it, they can take on two different kinds of roles. One partner usually initiates the rough sex while the other partner experiences the physical pain and gets aroused by it. If you’re more dominant in the relationship or in real life and have a career or a lifestyle where you’re not pushed around much, you may enjoy submissive rough sex more than other people. It’s your mind’s way of craving for a release from the responsibility and the control. The psychological release of control makes you enjoy your orgasm better.
On the other hand, a lover who plays a submissive part in the relationship or in real life may get more pleasure by taking control in bed or by playing the dominant partner while having rough sex. Rough sex doesn’t have to be a means to abuse each other or feel powerful. It can be used as a psychological release, just as long as you practice it in a controlled environment and swap dominant and submissive sides often, unless both of you prefer specific roles all the time.
While rough sex is a kind of kinky sex *unconventional*, it could just be a passionate tumble in the hay because both of you are extremely aroused. Most kinds of kinky sex takes some amount of planning and preparation, but rough sex almost never needs any planning, unless you plan to involve toys and other sexual paraphernalia. Rough sex is sexual arousal beyond penetration, it’s the sexual arousal that’s brought about by aggression.
1. Scream and yell
Not all of us are sexual screamers. But when you get roughed up and shed your vocal inhibitions, you’d feel more relaxed and carefree, which will make you wilder.
2. Nibble and bite
Using teeth is always a great way to bring out the animal in you when you’re in bed. Bite hard, but not hard enough to draw blood. Focus on erogenous zones like the neck, the breasts, belly, inner thighs and around the elbows and ankles.
3. Claw your lover
Scratch with your fingernails. Literally. Running a painful line with your fingernails against the soft skin of your lover’s back will send a sexy rush that can cause a lot of pain too. But when you’re on a sexual high, all that pain will turn to sexual adrenalin!
4. Pull each other’s hair
Grab a handful of your lover’s hair just above the scalp at the back of the head, and tug at it. You won’t lose your grip and yet, the pain will feel more pleasurable than when you hold your lover by the lower ends of their hair.
5. Aggressive movements
Pound each other like there’s no tomorrow, and the aggressive to-and-fro movements will turn both of you on, just as long as both of you can hold on long enough. But remember, you’re dealing with fragile body parts here, so don’t get carried away and push too deep or too hard.
6. The burning slap
Slap each other across the face or the chest, or if you’re standing behind your partner who’s on all fours, slap their back or their butt. The searing pain will bring out the animal in your lover.
For many kinky lovers, cutting off the oxygen supply to the brain arouses them to an all time high. But be very careful here, as you could end up hurting your lover while choking or throttling them. Instead of trying to choke your lover, just place your hands gently on your lover’s neck and massage it just until they feel your pressure.
8. Abusive words
Ever heard the lines, “say my name!” or “call me a bitch!”? Well, many lovers love getting called trashy names and hearing dirty abuses. If your lover’s into being called a whore, go ahead and indulge them.
9. Fantasizing and role play
The words you choose play a big part in setting the mood for rough sex. Grab your partner by their hair as you lay on their side, and whisper something dirty about what you intend to do to them. Or pretend like both of you are two other people, like two strangers on a flight, or drunken strangers at a party. If you have an active imagination, you’d get your lover in the mood even before doing anything else.
Forcing your partner to perform sexual acts can work quite well if both of you enjoy dominant and submissive roles. Force their head down on you, or hold your lover by their neck or hands and order them around in bed.